Friday, January 28, 2011

Manusia diiringi tanggungjawab


Allah SWT berfirman yang bermaksud: Sesungguhnya Kami (Allah) telah mengemukakan amanah (tugas-tugas keagamaan) kepada langit, bumi dan gunung-ganang. Maka semuanya enggan untuk memikul amanah itu dan mereka bimbang akan mengkhianatinya, dan dipikullah amanah itu oleh manusia. Sesungguhnya manusia itu amat zalim dan amat jahil. (al-Ahzab: 72)

Begitulah beratnya setiap tanggungjawab yang perlu kita pikul, dimana ia memerlukan sifat amanah yang wajib disertakan dengan niat yang ikhlas. Sebagai manusia, kita dilantik oleh Allah SWT sebagai khalifah di atas muka bumi ini.

Justeru, harus sedar betapa pentingnya peranan dan tanggungjawab kita, setelah kita bersetuju dan berjanji kepada Allah untuk menjadi khalifah di dunia.

Setiap manusia tidak akan lepas dan tidak dapat lari daripada tanggungjawab. Setelah kita dipertanggungjawabkan, bukan mudah untuk kita melaksanakannya.

Ini kerana, sekiranya gagal dalam melaksanakan tanggungjawab dan amanah yang diberi, kita akan dipersoalkan di kemudian hari. Oleh sebab itu, bukan calang-calang orang yang mampu dan bersedia untuk menggalas tanggungjawab.

Ia tidak cukup dengan hanya melaksanakannya, tetapi yang paling penting perlu disertakan dengan amanah dan niat yang betul.

Contoh paling mudah untuk kita teladani ialah Nabi Muhammad SAW di mana baginda adalah seorang manusia yang sangat amanah di dalam kehidupannya seharian. Sehingga beliau digelar sebagai al-amin (orang yang dipercayai) oleh penduduk Mekah pada waktu itu.

Bukan sahaja di kalangan para sahabat dan kaum muslimin, bahkan kaum musyrikin Mekah dan musuh-musuh Islam mengiktiraf sifat yang ada pada diri baginda Nabi SAW

Perkara utama yang perlu kita laksanakan sebagai hamba adalah tugas kita kepada sang pencipta, iaitu Allah SWT. Mentauhidkan Allah, sembahyang, puasa, zakat dan juga haji adalah merupakan amanah besar yang perlu dipikul oleh setiap individu muslim.

Namun apa yang menyedihkan, masih ramai di antara kita yang tidak peduli dengan kewajipan tersebut yang wajib kita laksanakan.

Sebagai contoh, masih ramai umat Islam di negara kita tidak menunaikan atau meringan-ringankan rukun Islam kedua iaitu solat. Solat fardu lima waktu merupakan tunjang agama Islam, bersesuaian dengan sabda Nabi SAW yang bermaksud: Solat itu adalah tiang agama, maka barang siapa yang mendirikan solat, sesungguhnya dia telah menegakkan agamanya, dan barang siapa yang meninggalkannya, maka sesungguhnya dia telah meruntuhkan agamanya.

Kajian menunjukkan bahawa 80% umat Islam di negara kita tidak menunaikan solat. Ini amat membimbangkan, kerana peratusan tersebut menunjukkan angka yang sangat besar.

Melalui solat, jiwa manusia akan menjadi lembut dan terdidik dengan pengabdian kita kepada Allah, kerana di dalamnya terdapat rukun-rukun dan syarat-syarat yang perlu dipatuhi oleh seorang hamba supaya patuh terhadap undang-undang yang telah ditetapkan oleh penciptanya agar solat tersebut diterima.

Terlalu banyak rahsia solat yang tidak terungkai oleh manusia. Ini kerana ia adalah hubungan antara hamba dan pencipta (hablum minallah) yang Maha Mengetahui.

Buat para pembaca yang saya hormati, ingin saya tekankan di sini bahawa, salah satu faktor terbesar yang menyumbang berlakunya gejala-gejala yang tidak sihat seperti perceraian, pembunuhan, rompakan, pergaduhan, buang bayi, anak luar nikah, merempit, berjudi, menilik nasib, dan perbuatan tidak baik yang berlaku dalam masyarakat hari ini berpunca daripada lemahnya iman.

Ia natijah daripada tidak mengabdikan diri kepada Tuhan, dengan melakukan solat yang difardukan kepada kita.

Lebih menyedihkan, apabila seseorang yang kerap menunaikan solat atau tidak pernah meninggalkan solat, tetapi solatnya tidak dapat mencegah dirinya daripada melakukan kemungkaran.

Allah SWT menjelaskan hal ini di dalam firmannya yang bermaksud: Maka kecelakaanlah (nerakalah) bagi orang-orang yang solat, tetapi mereka lalai dari solatnya. (al-Maa'uun: 4-5)

Ten ways to build your child's self-esteem

Nurturing your child's self-esteem may seem like a hefty responsibility. After all, a feeling of self-worth lays the foundation for your child's future as he sets out to try new things on his own. "Self-esteem comes from having a sense of belonging, believing that we're capable, and knowing our contributions are valued and worthwhile," says California family therapist Jane Nelsen, co-author of the Positive Discipline series.

"As any parent knows, self-esteem is a fleeting experience," says Nelsen. "Sometimes we feel good about ourselves and sometimes we don't. What we are really trying to teach our kids are life skills like resiliency." Your goal as a parent is to ensure that your child develops pride and self-respect — in himself and in his cultural roots — as well as faith in his ability to handle life's challenges (for a school-age child that may mean giving a dance performance for you). Here are ten simple strategies to help boost your child's self-esteem:

Give unconditional love. A child's self-esteem flourishes with the kind of no-strings-attached devotion that says, "I love you, no matter who you are or what you do." Your child benefits the most when you accept him for who he is regardless of his strengths, difficulties, temperament, or abilities. So, lavish him with love. Give him plenty of cuddles, kisses, and pats on the shoulder. And don't forget to tell him how much you love him. When you do have to correct your child, make it clear that it's his behavior — not him — that's unacceptable. For instance, instead of saying, "You're a naughty boy! Why can't you be good?" say, "Please don't throw the football in the house. A football is an outside toy."

Pay attention. Carve out time to give your child your undivided attention. That does wonders for your child's feelings of self-worth because it sends the message that you think he's important and valuable. It doesn't have to take a lot of time; it just means taking a moment to stop flicking through the mail if he's trying to talk with you or turning off the TV long enough to answer a question. Make eye contact so it's clear that you're really listening to what he's saying. When you're strapped for time, let your child know it without ignoring his needs. Say, "Tell me all about what happened at soccer practice, and then when you're finished, I'll need to make our dinner."

Teach limits. Establish a few reasonable rules for your child. For instance, if you tell him to wear his helmet when he rides his bike in the driveway, don't let him go without it at his friend's house. Knowing that certain family rules are set in stone will help him feel more secure. He'll start to live by your expectations soon enough. Just be clear and consistent and show him that you trust him and expect him to do the right thing.

Support healthy risks. Encourage your child to explore something new, such as trying a different food, making a new friend, or riding a skateboard. Though there's always the possibility of failure, without risk there's little opportunity for success. So let your child safely experiment, and resist the urge to intervene. For instance, try not to "rescue" him the minute he's showing mild frustration at figuring out how to read a tricky word. Jumping in to say, "I'll do it" can foster dependence and diminish your child's confidence. You'll build his self-esteem by balancing your need to protect him with his need to tackle new tasks.

Let mistakes happen. The flip side, of course, of having choices and taking risks is that sometimes your child is bound to make mistakes. These are valuable lessons for your child's confidence. So if your child misses the school bus because he was dawdling in his bedroom, encourage him to think about what he might do differently next time. That way his self-esteem won't sag and he'll understand that it's okay to make mistakes sometimes. When you goof up yourself, admit it, says Daniel Meier, assistant professor of elementary education at San Francisco State University. Acknowledging and recovering from your mistakes sends a powerful message to your child — it makes it easier for your child to accept his own difficulties.

Celebrate the positive. Everyone responds well to encouragement, so make an effort to acknowledge the good things your child does every day within his earshot. For instance, tell his dad, "Peter did all his chores today without prompting." He'll get to bask in the glow of your praise and his dad's heartening response. And be specific. Instead of saying "Good job," say, "Thank you for setting the table for dinner." This will enhance his sense of accomplishment and self-worth and let him know exactly what he did right.

Listen well. If your child needs to talk, stop and listen to what he has to say. He needs to know that his thoughts, feelings, desires, and opinions matter. Help him get comfortable with his emotions by labeling them. Say, "I understand you're sad because you can't go to the sleepover." By accepting his emotions without judgment, you validate his feelings and show that you value what he has to say. If you share your own feelings ("I'm worried about Grandma. She's very sick"), he'll gain confidence in expressing his own.

Resist comparisons. Comments such as "Why can't you be more like your brother?" or "Why can't you be nice like Evan?" will just remind your child of where he struggles in a way that fosters shame, envy, and competition. Even positive comparisons, such as "You're the best player" are potentially damaging because a child can find it hard to live up to this image. If you let your child know that you appreciate him for the unique individual he is, he'll be more likely to value himself too.

Offer empathy. If your child compares himself unfavorably to his siblings or peers ("Why can't I throw a football like Nicholas?"), show him empathy and then emphasize one of his strengths. For instance, say, "You're right. Nicholas is good at throwing a football. And you're a fast runner." This can help your child learn that we all have strengths and weaknesses, and that he doesn't have to be perfect to feel good about himself.

Provide encouragement. Every child needs the kind of support from loved ones that signals, "I believe in you. I see your effort. Keep going!" Encouragement means acknowledging progress — not just rewarding achievement. So if your child is struggling with a math problem, say: "You're trying very hard and you almost have it!" instead of "Not like that. Let me do it."

There's a difference between praise and encouragement. One rewards the task while the other rewards the person ("You did it!" rather than "I'm proud of you!"). Praise can make a child feel that he's only "good" if he does something perfectly. Encouragement, on the other hand, acknowledges the effort. "Tell me about the game. I saw you really hustling out there" is more helpful than saying, "You're the best player on the team." Too much praise can sap self-esteem because it can create pressure to perform and set up a continual need for approval from others. So dole out the praise judiciously and offer encouragement liberally; it will help your child grow up to feel good about himself.

Thursday, January 27, 2011

luv u bit

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hangat

Adus...saya sampai lupa about facebook..sbb bz sangat bertweeting..well i must say tuwit is better than facebook..for me la..i like it much. .as i can tweet for all time..sbb facebook ni nak update status all the time..kang orang menyampah pulak kan..kan?
So for now my tweet memang sangat la bz..sbb ada hot story..fasha sanda n pengetua af 9..saya tak kisah sangat pasal af 9 nya pengetua..cuma..it sems like menguji kredibiliti penyanyi kat malaysia kan..? Teruk sangat ke artis malaysia...huhu..
Tak semua artis malaysia teruk..saya manusia biasa...ada yang saya suka..ada yg saya tak suka..but for bow..the hot topic for early 2011..is fasha sanda story mory...yang naik jelak baca tweet dia..yes i do follow her..sbbnya nak tau apa la yang dia tweet...sengal...plus sentap jugak la baca..tapi tu la kan..dia pun ada fan sendiri..yang saya sendiri pun tak faham kenapa nak kena support artis cam FS tuh...
May be yang minat FS ni golongan belum berkahwin..sbb as for me..i cant accept people yang merampas laki orang nih..as semua orang tau..and i always know..what u give..u get back..kan..kan..


Yang ni...memang aku kesah..
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Friday, January 21, 2011

Monday, January 17, 2011

Astro First

Astro First...
Apa la ek tujuan Astro? Does Astro think that by showing the movee 'now showing' mengurangkan or kira macam tak menyokong la kan penerbit pengarah filem kat Malaysia ni. Tapi tu la..for those yang memang tak suka tengok wayang or tak suka tengok malay movee boleh la subscribe...
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adib yang macam macam

Adus..pening kepala la kan ngan budak2 ni...lepas satu satu yg dia minat..now adib tengah minat Ben 10...so for bow papa dia ah beli kan jam ben 10 yang elok..sbb beli yg kat pasar malam pun rasanya dah lebih sepuluh...so better beli yang elok terus. Dia punya collection Ben 10 bi dari saputangan ke spender..baju kasut skolah..lunchbox semuanya Ben 10..haih adib adib...nak membesar tu tak tau ap la lagi yang dia akan minat...
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Thursday, January 13, 2011

anugerah juara lagu

Cite dah basi pun..tapi me x sempat nak update..ntah pa yang bz sgt pun saya tak tau..hihi...

Malam AJL tu memang seronok sbb tengok ramai2 with my ipar duai. ..masa opening tu memang best sbb performed by Juara2 Lagu...

As for me memang tunggu la Faizal Tahir nya perform..as we know dia nya persembahan memang terbaik...

Tapi bila AJL annouced the winner went to Ana Rafali..me like...what?..this baju kurung girl menang..yes...for me..lagu dia sgt sgt biasa je...nak banding Yuna ( also lyric and song by herself) tp totally not agree with the juri...

Kalau baca facebook lagi la lawak...ada yang cakap..nak nyanyi n downlowd ke youtube to get 35 k...huhu...my fren status just like this ' oh my. .tolong ingatkan aku ana rafali ni winner...sbb aku tak tau pun dia ni sape...'

Ramai lagi yang menyanyi dengan sangat bagus...Black.Faizal Tahir.artis artis AF pun tak kurang hebatnya...

Haih....
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thing money can't buy

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Wednesday, January 12, 2011

Counting Our Blessing

We tend to appreciate something ONLY when that something is gone.

We appreciate our health more, when we’re sick. We appreciate the fact we can eat and swallow well when we have a bad sore throat and our mouth is full of ulcers. We appreciate our parents more when they’re no longer around.

We’ve received so much in our lives but we tend to take them for granted. Consciously and unconsciously. We have a home, a family, a husband, children, meals on our table and our health. Sunlight, rain and air. And this is only to name a few.

Every second in our life is a blessing. It’s given and showered upon us without us asking for it. It’s pure grace from above.

Let’s not take things for granted.

Let’s start counting our blessings.

Tuesday, January 11, 2011

back to school



my late update adib was back to school...

when kid grow, so fast

me, hard to believe that Adib is 6 yo. And next year will be in standard one.

In my head, I know that we need to face the fact that time flies, and that our children WILL grow up.

That they WILL spend even longer hours AWAY from us parents.

That they WILL be exposed to more and more external influences.

That they WILL see more of the world, the good and the bad, WITHOUT us by their side to guide them.


to Adib :

We all love you and we’re proud of everything that you strived for all these growing up years.

Wednesday, January 5, 2011

Allah adalah satu-satunya Penolong.

Saya menyerahkan semua urusan kepada Allah. Bertawakal kepadaNya. Percaya terhadap janji-janjinya, redha dgn apa yg dilakukanNya, berbaik sangka terhadapNya dan saya menunggu dengan sabar pertolongan dariNya. Saya hanya menyerahkan segalanya kepadaNya. Semoga Dia selalu memberi perlindungan, kekuatan serta pertolongan kepada saya sekeluarga. Saya tahu dan percaya..setiap kesulitan atau dugaan atau hukuman..pasti ada sesuatu disebaliknya..semoga dengan kesesatan ini akan di beri petunjuk olehNya..semoga setiap kesusahan ini akan diberi kesenangan olehNya..semoga dengan setiap kekurangan ini akan diberi kelebihan olehNya.
ALLAH tidak akan pernah mengambil sesuatu dari kita kecuali dengan menggantikannya dengan yang lebih baik...saya harus terus bersabar...supaya saya mendapat setiap yang baik itu...saya masih ada suami,masih ada anak,masih ada ibu ayah, saya bukan hilang segala-galanya..tiada apa yang kekal..semuanya pinjaman..kesusahan..kesenangan..kepayahan..kekalahan..kemenangan..kekayaan..semua itu pinjaman...
Sesungguhnya sabar itu indah kan?
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101 Doa Para Nabi & Rasul

A million thanks to whom giving me this...i do appreciate it.this is a very precious give. Thank you...
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my baby u..

Melayan lagu ni jap
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Tuesday, January 4, 2011

Adib is a senior.

Dear Adib,

Besar dah anak mummy...dah 6 years old...dah jadi big boy dah kat school adib...teachers semua pun dah kenal adib..tahun ni adib naik kelas...alhamdulillah...mummy selalu nya expect yang terbaik dari adib..tapi mummy lupa...tak semua orang sama...at this time being..apa yang mummy risau pasal adib is adib suka sangat main game...mummy kena more strict to adib...mummy and papa selalu and akan berusaha memberi yang terbaik utk adib...jadilah anak yang soleh...semoga adib berguna dunia akhirat..
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malaysia juara AFF

Rasanya dah terlambat update tentang kejayaan malaysia menjadi juara AFF.
Congrats harimau malaya. Malam yang membawa sejarah kat Malaysia we celebrate with our PM gave and declare PH on Friday..rasanya ini lah penghujung tahun 2010 yang memberi kegembiraan kepada all Malaysia (yang x minat bola tu nak wat cane kan?) and me and fren cant stop tweeting among us...lagilagi sbb Khairul Fahmi tu player Red Warrior...hihi...
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